We ALL Should Be Feminists

If most men easily accept that women are the “weaker sex”, how come they find it SO hard to stomach women who try to speak up for women or protect women interests? SMH!

My Facebook friends would know that I am one to always talk about such issues and it’s a pity when ANY attempt to say something that doesn’t boost a man’s ego or make women look like second class human beings, some folks (guys, of course) would quickly jump at me with the almighty ‘submissive sermon’.

It’s funny how men who have no authority WHATSOEVER over you also demand submission. For instance, the ‘smart’-ass dude who I was meeting for the first time few weeks ago , who wanted me to submit to him over a non-issue because “that’s how we will know if you will submit in marriage”! Like WHAT DA ——-!!!!!  Who are you brother? My dad? Fiancee?

A random nobody wants me to submit to him on the first date???? (Just remembering it makes me want to explode…) Lol.

Moving on,

In the “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man’ book (I started reading yesterday), Steve Harvey said a man who loves you will profess that love, provide for you and protect you. According to him, these things are in-built instincts.

Question is, isn’t feminism about protecting women? Isn’t it about shielding women from people (men) who try to suppress or oppress them and make them less than God designed them to be?

If God wanted a subdued (female) gender, He wouldn’t have endowed them (women) with so much intelligence, passion, imagination, desire for greatness and all the other things that make them aspire to MORE than the world is willing to give them.

If there’s one thing that I am so sure of, it is my UNREPENTANT passion about women and the MANY issues that plague them. This is passion God put inside me! (Argue in your wardrobe).

But, what about the men and their issues, you ask? Well, I’m sure there would be men like me, passionate about men/issues. A woman is the best thing I know how to be.

Long and short? We all should be feminists. We all should protect women!

PS: Early momo rant inspired by all ‘African man mentality’ supporters. Oluwa is your muscle!

My Idea Of ‘Womanhood’

I want the world to remember the face of my brain and heart… not the size of my body parts.

 

Once upon a time, the generally accepted concept of womanhood was all about the kitchen, the bed and generally about the home (which is not a bad thing in itself). Back then, a woman did not necessarily have attain the highest level of education since the only place where she would (eventually) prove her worth was at home.

In the 21st century, the story has changed, for a significant number.

Although that idea of being just a wife and mother is noble and in a sense, grand, for those who are satisfied with just that, the global world has come to accept that there is far more to womanhood than just cooking, cleaning, bedding and all that.

However, despite the global clamour for the empowerment and education of women, I am saddened to find young educated women, not living up to their worth.

Of the many ladies I see in the society, very few concern themselves with the ‘serious’ things. What do I mean? How many ladies are concerned about and actively involved in politics, social issues, governance, the legal system… I may be wrong but I find that many just want to be done with school, find a good job that will pay well, a great guy to take them to mama, a beautiful financially-secured family and the happy-ever-after fairy-tale.

I want to see more women discussing #Nigeria, engaging government on policies, breaking boundaries, setting world records in business, music, fashion, carving caves and no longer niches… celebrating greatness in different spheres of life;

NOT basing their worth on the size of their ‘ukwu’ (backside or hips), selling integrity in exchange for the latest fashion trends and mobile gadgets and generally refusing to put their brains to good use all in the name of … “I’ll marry a man.”

They make it seem as if marriage is the greatest ambition a woman can ever aspire to. They couldn’t be further from the truth. There is SO MUCH MORE A WOMAN OUGHT TO DO without neglecting her innate abilities.

I strongly believe there is so much more to being a woman that the obvious (the mere fact that every woman is a born-multitask-er is testament to this) and so it hurts when I see my sisters settle for less.

God has endowed you with so much. Don’t disappoint Him. Don’t disappoint you.

Aspire to greatness, dream big and die empty. Think about it.

 

(I am Mayowa Ogundele and I am passionate about seeing a Nigeria where the woman is not in any-way disadvantaged. Where the laws are fair and nonsexist.)